The Break-Up

Wow words cant express the pain i am feeling right now. Love is a bitch and it hurts so bad, but i feel deep down inside of me that it was something that i needed to do and that had to be done, even though it pains me so much to do it. Thanks to fellow bloggers Trent Jackson and Dayne Avery for their advice along with neo-soul artist Chanj you can find out more info on him at www.myspace.com/chanjthemovement , along wit my co-workers. Each day i get stronger and stronger. Below is great advice from trent. Thanks!! the song now playinng on ova and ova on repeat is "Two week Notice" by Fantasia and "Goodbye" by Alicia Keys


Congrats on finding someone who accepts you for who you are! A lot of people don't have that now a days...and a lot of people give up hope in finding a person that is a match for them.

Things happen during relationships, you take the good with the bad and everyone has their moments. It's really important to see how one deals with stress and money!!! Trust me those make a hell of a difference.

You have to look at a persons patterns...do they always do this? do they always do that? If the good outweighs the bad in the relationship then give him a second chance. If the bad out weights the good, then you know where you need to cut your losses. But just because they are good hearted person doesn't mean that you have to put up with their irresponsibility. You know what works for you and what doesn't. The main objective is to have frank and free discussion about what is bothering you...from your standpoint.

If you're really interested in making the relationship work you will - just by giving it a second thought says a lot about who you are as a person.

The bottom line of the situation is come up with a plan that is going to salvage your relationship so the both of you can move on from this point...you have to learn and grow from experiences and find the good in everything!

But I hope this helps!!! Talk it out...listen without speaking, and think before you speak!